Depression, Anxiety, and Hormones Oh My!

Updated: Jul 12

A lot of women don't know or understand how hormones affect us. In my 30's I started dealing with PMDD (Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder). That means that for two weeks, I would feel amazing. I would have high energy. I would feel motivated and life is full of possibilities. The sky is the limit for me. Then next two weeks I can barely get out of bed. I'm dealing with high anxiety, depression, irritability, and low energy. The world looks like a dark cloudy day. It's hard to see the sunshine. I describe it often to people that it feels like I'm walking through water. Imagine if you tried running through water, it's a lot harder than running on dry land. Unfortunately it took me almost 5 years to put two and two together.

During that time, I found it hard to focus on anything. I mean how could I? How could I focus on my business, when I lacked motivation to follow through because here comes my two week depression. And let me tell you, a lot can go down in two weeks. It was like I was watching my life from the outside. I know I should get up and do something productive. I know I should be a better mom and wife. I would be screaming at myself on the inside, saying "JUST GET UP AND DO SOMETHING!" My life wasn't bad, I couldn't understand why I was feeling this way. I would cry all day from sadness and frustration. Why couldn't I get my life together? And then my cycle would come on and poof, I felt better. The longer I dealt with this, the more severe it became. I became a blubbering mess, who couldn't deal with the slightest changes that life threw at me. I felt like a failure over and over again. I would try to be better, and then BAM it's that time again.

It was so bad, that I just didn't know who I was anymore. I was suffering. My thoughts were dark. I felt like I was going crazy. I thought PMS shouldn't make you feel this way, so I pushed that idea to the back of my mind. However, I just couldn't ignore that on the morning I was two weeks out from my cycle I woke feeling different. So as I researched, I found out about PMDD. And it all made sense. I think how many women are feeling this way each month. How many times have we tried to get our life on track and just because we are a woman it's harder. So I had to learn a few things.

  1. I had to learn to be kind to myself. My inner dialogue couldn't be negative. I can't afford it. I had to learn to love myself the way I deserved to be love. As wonderful as my husband is, His love can't get me through this. I had to learn to love me.

  2. A healthy diet and working out is critical. It helps balance out our hormones. It releases endorphins that help us feel good.

  3. Don't be afraid to talk about how you feel with a professional. Suffering in silence is a deadly killer. It's ok to admit that you don't have life together and you need help.

  4. There are supplements that can help keep us in hormonal balance. I personally use Vitex, but always talk with your doctor about what you can do.

So understand that you aren't alone. This has shaped how I view fitness. That's why my approach with fitness is through encouragement and creating a healthy life that focused on mind, body, and spirit. It's not about being perfect, but progressing. When you feel that you are progressing in life, it gives you something to keep reaching for. No matter what your issue maybe, it doesn't have to be the determining factor with how your life turns out. Be brave enough to seek positive change. It may be scary at first, but you're worth it!

Gwendalyne Barnes

Founder of Bodi By G

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